How do gay people find potential dating partners without going to?
I wish I knew. Haha. Im at a point where Ive more or less given up trying to find a meaningful connection. Granted, I know I have things that I really need in a partner that Im not going to find easily. I deleted Grindr and other apps so there must be others who share your sentiments about meeting people offline. I was recently ghosted by a guy on OK Cupid who seemed to share my values. That turned me off to online dating forever. I likely wont try again, but never say never. Have you tried OKC or maybe Match or something? I dont know success rates through that. Ive heard of so many guys meeting on, of all things, Instagram! Im not necessarily looking seriously, but if I was I would definitely go the route of just getting involved in things I love and hoping I meet someone through that. Have you tried meetups geared towards your interest? There are gay ones, but I dont know what they are like. Ive frankly been too nervous to try because despite ultimately desiring a relationship, I dont enjoy getting attention from guys I am not interested in. If Im interested, thats one thing. If Im not, Id rather they not look at me at all. I understand the struggle. I havent had alcohol in over 3 years, so I dont go to the bars. Bars and apps automatically have this attachment of sex. You go on the app, or you go to the bar to get laid, not to find someone to connect with on a deeper level. But where else are you going to find a bunch of gay men? That is where you can find them, guaranteed!